How To Attract Your Ideal Partner: The 3 Biggest Traps Most Fall Into
Summary
Today I want to share with you 3 of the biggest reasons most fail to attract their ideal partner. This will be in regard to attracting a specific person, but the principles are applicable in all kinds of “attraction” regardless.
When we want a specific person, we immediately put them on a pedestal. When you put someone on a pedestal, they have no choice but to look down on you.
Now a “pressure drop” is created; you feel inferior to the person you’d like to attract, thus an imbalance is created in nature.
A few things are going on here, so let’s understand through the lens of the concepts I’m going to describe below, and exactly what’s worked for me to actually become “attractive” and less needy.
Excess potential: when you put a person on a pedestal, you create an “inhomogeneity” in the field of nature. I describe this with bunched up lines in the video so make sure to check that out. Essentially, nature wants to balance out any imbalances you create, and it takes the path of least resistance in doing so. When done, usually it leads to the specific person getting repelled further and further away until you finally give up wanting and needing them.
Dependent relationships: your actions and behaviors become dependent on this specific person. This fuels “polarity” and explains why people seemingly attract partners that are not a right fit for them, and creates a vicious cycle of toxic relationship after toxic relationship. A dependent relationship essentially means that your “love” is conditional. Eg “I like you because you are like this, I don’t like you because you are like that” etc. More in the video on that and the exact solution to it.
Attractiveness: as a result of putting your person on a pedestal, now you’ve become a puppet to this person and you’ve fallen into their frame. Whatever they say, you do. Imagine hanging out with someone who has no opinions or a voice of their own, rather agrees with everything you say and hangs on to your every word. This is the most unattractive person to be around, because they’re almost like a parasitic leech. Once you double down on yourself, find your own focus and work on becoming your best self, now all of a sudden you become magnetic and gain a charm. More on this in the video.
Hope this helps! Let me know in the comments if you want me to make more content like this?
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