How To Deal With Uncertainty In Life: Be Careful How You Handle It

Quazi (00:00):

Quazi hit. And in today’s video, I want to share with you the best way to deal with uncertainty, what to do and what not to do. If you’re someone who’s going through uncertain times right now, this video is going to be extremely valuable for you. And I only wish I knew this when I was going through uncertain times. So make sure you stick around to the very end of this. I’m really excited to share this with you. Before I begin this video into quickly announced that you can now get exclusive access to our email list, as well as the brand new identity shifting bootcamp. If you just scroll down to the comments section below the pin, comments will contain a link to it as well as the description box. And you can just go to a page and you enter your name and email and get access there.

Quazi (00:47):

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Quazi (01:44):

Right? So, um, in this video, I want to talk to you about my personal story, taking leaps of faith and the most effective way to deal with uncertainty. And what I want to begin with is the biggest problem. Okay? What most people currently do when they’re faced with uncertain times. So most people contract when faced with uncertainty contract. Now in life, you can either expand and become open to receiving, or you can contract and become closed off, right? So this is the subtle dynamics called a power versus force. It’s a great book by David L. Hawkins. If you haven’t read it, I would encourage you to read it. But essentially forces kind of like you’re forcing your you’re contracted. You’re fighting against something, you’re protecting something. Power is more like you’re letting it happen. Naturally. You know, you’re using your sort of, if I were to demonstrate this, it’s kind of like your forces fighting against the tide power is using the tide to deliver you to your goals.

Quazi (02:44):

It’s that simply put, right? So most people contract during uncertainty and they become very defensive. They start to fight and they start to become very reactive, which then makes the battle much harder than it needs to be. Right. So because of that, they go towards undesired events and things happen that shouldn’t and they make mistakes and they have regrets on their decisions. So the biggest example of this is just giving up, right? Like most people when faced with uncertain times, they’ll just contract and just give up and go back to their old thing. And then they’ll come back to it again and try it another day when they’re feeding it, then it won’t work again. And the same attitude will keep reflecting over and over again. And this is exactly why I say that, you know, it’s never mindset or action, it’s mindset and action mindset. You know, action is a part of your mindset. You know, how you act is determined by how you predominantly think and what you predominantly feel. If you can control your internal world externally, the manifestation will follow, right? So the biggest problem in dealing with uncertainty is most people contract during their uncertainty. And what you’ve got to understand is uncertainty is actually potential,

Speaker 2 (04:01):

Okay?

Quazi (04:03):

Uncertainty is massive potential. Why do I say this? Well, please reflect it this way. There are periods of your life when you’re very certain and periods of your life. When you’re uncertain, the period of certainty comes from a period of uncertainty, right? So this period of uncertainty actually has its place and why it has its places, because it makes you more open to receive it. Okay? When you’re uncertain about something, you will start to question it. When you start to question things, you will seek answers. And when you seek on says, you will find them, whatever you’re looking for, you will find, okay. So uncertainty at the period of uncertainty in your life has great, great potential because the period of uncertainty is kind of like, you know, you have this period of what things go well, and you are very certain about your life.

Quazi (04:56):

And then there’s this uncertain period that follows, and then more period of certainty, right? So it’s just this middle period, uncertainty as this middle period that connect to certain periods of your life. It’s just that delay before that next phase in your life take shape. Now you can have a say in how the next phase in your life, what next phase in your life take shape. And this is exactly what this period of uncertainty does. So please think about it every time you’ve had a period of uncertainty in your life. I’m very sure that it was followed by this phase of life where you were certain and maybe you liked it, or maybe you didn’t like it. And what happened after that period of certainty, what you liked or what you disliked was determined by your attitude during the period of uncertainty. Isn’t that right?

Quazi (05:51):

If you attitude is sour during this period of uncertainty and you contract, then more things will show up here. After the uncertainty, let’s say the flow is this way, right? More things will show up more negative. Things will show up after that. So for example, you go to try out a business and it doesn’t work and you contract, you’re like, oh, it’s not going to work. Then you return to your job. It’s more of the undesired situation, right? Which you don’t want, you’re contracting back to your job and you don’t like the job. You’re going back to the same job. You’re going back to the same abusive relationship. You know, there was a moment where you questioned the relationship and you’re like, no, I’m going to, I’m going to get out of this, but then you contract it again. You fell asleep again and you went back to it. But on the other hand, so two things can happen from this point, right? Let’s say the black line is negative. And the red line is a positive counterpart. Your attitude during the period of uncertainty can also lead to a positive, desired lifeline or life trajectory, which is what we’re going to discuss next,

Speaker 2 (06:53):

Your life trajectory.

Quazi (06:55):

And you know, maybe you didn’t fold during this period of uncertainty. You decided to quit your job. And you wanted to, you know, start up a business and the business didn’t work, but you didn’t quit. You still stayed at it. Maybe you got a part-time job. You didn’t go back to the full-time job. And you just, you didn’t completely give up, but you’re still like, okay, you know what? Maybe it’s not going to happen. Now. Maybe I still got to do more research. I got to get more finances to invest in this. And I got to try harder. You still kept at it. And you kept researching and you kept doing your part. You kept showing up and you immersed yourself. Then lifeline, eventually it’s going to happen. Like there’s no choice. If you keep focusing on something for long enough, eventually it’s going to happen.

Quazi (07:35):

And then eventually it does happen. So this is the positive counterpart positive negative, right? Then the positive thing follows after the a certain period. So, funny enough, this is exactly what happened to me in may of 2019. When I decided to quit my full-time job, where I had an offer to work there at an engineering career, I said, no, I’m going to work on my business. And everyone thought I was naive and foolish. My parents thought I was naive and foolish and like a kid trying to chase candy. And that’s exactly what I was. I was a kid trying to chase candy, but I got my candy. And it’s because I persisted. Right? It’s because I persisted and I struggled through this uncertain period. And this uncertain period came because as I was clear on what I wanted and I acted according with that. So everything was in line.

Quazi (08:36):

My thoughts, my feelings, my beliefs, my identity, my actions, all of those that were in one line with what I wanted. And because I acted sincerely with that, the period of uncertainty came that period of uncertainty is a test. Life is testing your, do you really want this? Do you really want this? Do you actually want this? Are you good enough to withstand these tough tides? So in may of 2019, when I quit give you a backstory, I started the business in like January, February of 2019. And I was making some money. You know, I was making like 1, 2, 3 K a month, maybe getting some clients here and there. And it was very consistent. It was consistently at one to three K a month up until may. That’s when I hit a big fat zero, right? When I graduated college, right. When I told the employer that I would quit.

Quazi (09:27):

Right. And right then I hit zero and my parents were like, oh, what’s going on? What are you even doing? You were just like staying in this house. You are living for free. You’re eating for free. And you’re not even like we paid for your tuition or what’s going on. Why aren’t you like, why don’t you go into this job? Is it time now? Are you going to go now? And I had this big breakdown, this big meltdown in this month. And that’s when the test, I truly felt it, but I still persisted. I still made the videos. I still did what I needed to do, but I had an internal, I, you know, I let go of those pent up feelings that were coming up instead of suppressing them and just trying to take massive action. I felt them. I took my time. I reflected on the mind, quiet them.

Quazi (10:13):

And I didn’t contract. The biggest thing is I didn’t contract during the doubts. I had lots of doubts then will I make it? Will it work? What if it doesn’t work? No one, you know, does mindset coaching. And most people do business coaching. Most people do relationship coaching. Most people do this coaching and that coaching. Why would I be able to do it? I don’t even know if coaching is going to work. Would I be able to make, you know, replace my nine to five salary with this? I mean, I would’ve been happy if I could just replace the salary from my nine to five back then. Right. But what happened was because my attitude was right and May, 2019 and I still persisted. I didn’t let it shake me. June was when I made my first 5k month. July was when I made my first eight K month and August was my first 20 okay. Month. And then September was ADK and it just blew up from there. Right? All of that happened because I focused on the right things. And I still put this and I changed my relationship

Speaker 2 (11:17):

To the doubts. That’s the secret.

Quazi (11:19):

I changing your relationship to the uncertainty, to the doubt. And that’s how you go from contracting in doubt to expanding it. So that led me to that next point, which I already discussed, which is your life trajectory. Your life trajectory is determined by the meaning that you attribute to the events that are unfolding right now, whatever, meaning that’s right attributed to this period of uncertainty of ups and downs. If you put a positive meaning on it, then positive things will happen. Negative. Meaning the negative things will happen. If you put a meaning, nothing will happen.

Speaker 2 (11:55):

Okay? So

Quazi (11:57):

Let me ask you this. How do you perceive uncertain periods in your life? Are you in constant resistance of it? Are you closed off to it? Are you rejecting it? Why are you accepting it, welcoming it and using it to grow? Right? So, uh, most people, whenever something bad or uncertain happens because they’ve been so accustomed to being certain, they rejected as a part of life, the period of certainty they accept. But the period of uncertainty, they reject you either accept everything or reject everything, right? When you start to discriminate between the two, then you reject this as life itself might. So you’re, you’re rejecting this as life. This period of uncertainty, you’re accepting this as life, but you’re rejecting this as life. Even the unwanted has its place. Even the uncertainty has its place. Our limited minds, the ego cannot conceive of what place it has in here, because it thinks that it’s always right.

Quazi (12:56):

It always thinks that our, you know, it always got to go from a, to B, to C, to D, but in reality, it’s not linear. Right? Life always takes the path of least resistance, the path that expense, the least energy to deliver you to your goals. It doesn’t concern yourself with what you want entirely. It gives you what you want, but in its own way. Right? So that’s the rough lesson that I’ve learned that month. Even though I had zero, my faith, my trust in what I was doing was unshaken. I still trusted that. Somehow it’s going to work out somehow. It’s going to work out. Just keep persisting. Let’s just keep trying. Okay. So what was that, you know, in that period, what did I have that made me that made my trust in it so strong. Let’s get right to it. Those are the three keys. Okay. Key number one was viewing uncertainty as potential or opportunity,

Speaker 2 (13:52):

Right? Opportunity.

Quazi (13:57):

I’m always asking myself what good can come out of this. I know, I feel uncertain. I know. I feel anxious. What good can come out of this? It’s almost like imagining you somewhere in the future, living from the end, looking back at this and being like, I know I’m going to look back at this and be like, oh man, those were some tough times, but I’m so glad it happened. Can I accept it as that? Can I view, can I change my perception, my relationship to uncertainty, which leads me to the second point, which is simply change your relationship to it. If you can’t stop resisting it, change your relationship to it. So this is kind of like that feedback loop of hell that I described sometimes in the channel. If we look at it like this, let’s say there is an event and you have a negative perception to the event, but then you fall into the trap of studying personal development a little too much. And then you start to be like, Ooh, I feel negative about this. I shouldn’t feel negative. It’s bad to feel negative. So poor. You now feels negative about feeling negative. And then you’re like, oh no, this is bad. I shouldn’t feel negative about feeling negative. I should try to feel positive.

Quazi (15:23):

So what was just one ball of negativity now becomes to the power of three, right? So it’s much worse than just this one boy that you felt negative and you experienced it and you let it go. The key thing to do here is cut your relationship right here. This is negative. Okay. That’s okay. I am human being. I don’t have to feel good all the time. Right? Sometimes I’m going to have bad days. Sometimes I’m gonna have good days. Can I be okay with feeling negative about this?

Speaker 2 (15:55):

Yeah, sure.

Quazi (15:57):

Turn that into a positive and then you cut it off there, right? Just like just like a normal human being. And I learned this from, I can’t remember the name of the author, but he wrote, I think his name is mark Manson. He talks about how the desire for a positive experience itself is a negative experience, right? Because you’re emphasizing to yourself that this isn’t positive. I want positive. I want positive means I’m not as positive. If I’m not at positive, it must mean that I am at negative. Right? So it’s kind of like that. This is the desire for the positive experience, which brings you into the cycle of negativity. You feel, you doubt, you doubt the doubt and you doubt the fear and you fear the fear and it just leads you into this whole cycle. Instead of doing all of that, you simply cut it off here and you change your relationship to the negativity.

Quazi (16:53):

You change your relationship to the uncertainty. Instead of viewing uncertainty as negative, you view it as positive. This is something that is going to help me. I just can’t see it yet. And that’s okay. That’s okay with time. It’ll show itself, which leads me to the third point, which is be patient. And this is what people fail with. And it’s embarrassing how badly people fail with this. Like I’ve seen people try something for like a day or one time and just quit instead of just keeping on trying over and over, we have this desire to get a quick result from everything, right? We want this instant gratification. We want it and we want it. Now we want this Amazon delivered to us right now this same day. Just, you know, put it inside my house, feed me, like, you know, chew it up for me to digest it for me.

Quazi (17:49):

So, you know, this instant gratification is becoming a huge problem and it’s conditioning us to get it wanted right now. But reality works with the delay. It takes its own time. You’ve got to be patient with these things. It’s kind of like learning a new golf swing technique. And you’re like, okay, I’m going to get all the shots. Right, right now, instead of practicing it, instead of having respect for those who have spent 10,000, 20,000, 30,000 hours mastering their craft, right? So be patient with whatever it is. You try give it ample time. If you’re going to try out like a new marketing campaign, don’t doubt it right now. Don’t doubt it. After a day’s worth of performance, give it four seven or whatever days it might take. Give it a little bit longer than it needs to. Right. Sometimes I’ll just fail intentionally just to be sure that I’m failing.

Quazi (18:39):

But if I cut it off too soon, then I’ll never know. I’ll always be uncertain. Do you see what I mean? So whenever you’re trying something, give it ample time. If you’re uncertain, whether or not it’s been enough time, give it even more time than necessary and with time it’ll show itself. Okay. And with that, I conclude this video. Thank you so much for watching. I sincerely hope this is helpful. Let’s do a quick recap of what we talked about today. Today. We talked about the best way to deal with uncertainty and what could happen if you deal with uncertainty the wrong way, which is what most people do. And most contracts during uncertainty, we want to expand during uncertainty and see it. You know, the only way to expand is to see it as an opportunity. And the example, the prime example of contracting green uncertainty is when people give up, they contract, they’re like, oh, it’s not going to work. I’m going to give up.

Quazi (19:30):

The next point we discussed was what uncertainty really is. It’s potential, right? It’s potential that something will change. It’s that middle point between two certain points in your life. It’s that phase that says your trajectory in life is now going to change. And this is how it changes, right? You go from this line and you’re moving here. Maybe you’re going to a job. And now in this period of uncertainty, you have a say, whether or not you keep on continuing in the job, or you go to a trajectory that you would like, maybe that financial freedom you’ve been seeking and that potential is available to you to change that railroad tracks. And it all depends on how you deal, what meaning you put onto it, which essentially determines your life trajectory. And we talked about the three keys to mastering that attitude, that attitude that you have during the period of uncertainty, key number one is viewing uncertainty as opportunity. Key number two is simply changing your relationship to uncertainty, looking at this feedback loop of hell. You have something negative and you’re negative about the negative. It’s going to be worse than just being negative and cutting it off there, allowing yourself to be negative, allowing yourself to have the negative thoughts,

Speaker 2 (20:47):

Step three, being patient, giving it enough time

Quazi (20:52):

For it to unfold. Okay? Because most people just quit within a few days. You know, they don’t, they’ve been wired to get a weekly paycheck from their job, but a business might even take a year, two years, three years to build up to the level that you want. So be patient with it, give it some time, keep trying, keep going. And the only way you can be patient is if it’s something that you love to do anyways, like for example, if you’re a musician and you love to make music, you’re going to do it for free. And if you would do something for free free, well, then it’s much easier to monetize that and make money from that. Then something you’re just trying to make money off of. Right? Like I would have made these videos for free for the rest of my life. And, um, with that conclude this video.

Quazi (21:38):

Thank you so much for watching. I sincerely hope this was helpful. Leaving a comment below. Let me know what you thought of this. If this was helpful, if there’s any other videos you would like to see, uh, any suggestions that you have, I’ll take that into consideration. Maybe even make a video on it. And if you’re new to the channel, make sure you like comment, subscribe at a low builders who notified of any new video that I put out. And also if you’d like to work closer together with me and my team within the reality mastery program, I invite you to apply click on the link in the description below to sign up. Now who we typically work with in this program are people who are business owners and entrepreneurs who want to scale their businesses. And what they’re seeing is they don’t really have a tactical or strategic problem.

Quazi (22:16):

They have personal problems that reflecting out into their business. They doubt themselves. They’re not confident in what they’re charging or they’re not confident in their strategies. And they just find that they have an invisible block. They don’t know what it is. They’re really unclear. And because of that, they’re stuck at a certain revenue level. They can’t really scale up past it. That sounds like you click on the link in the description to sign up. Let’s see if we can help. Uh, the free Facebook group is open for you to take advantage off. The link for that is also in the description. Guys. Thank you so much for watching until next time.