The Truth About “Letting Go”: When To Surrender & When To Not


In today’s video, I outline a crucial distinction: when are we supposed to let go vs work hard?

This is a question that has plagued us for ages, for we know that the journey to goal achievement involves effort combined with surrender.

How does one strike the sweet spot?

I begin with a personal story of mine that allowed me to find this sweet spot.

It all began a couple of weeks ago when I’d decided to go on a vacation.

I was panicking about shutting down our operations, even though I had a sales person and a coach to look over things.

Now in the past when I took a vacation, I would shut everything down in fear of what could’ve happened in my absence: annoyed customers, troubles with prospective clients, ad accounts getting shut down etc.

This time, I’d decided to expand my comfort zone and just leave everything on, and keep the responsibility of running the day to day with my team.

I completely switched off, while the business remained switched on…for 7 whole days.

When I came back…I was in for a huge surprise.

So here’s what I discuss:

  • My personal story and what allowed me to understand “the sweet spot”
  • The most effective way to let go
  • Why letting go can be hard
  • When to put in the effort
  • How to live in a perpetual state of surrender (the key)
  • How one of our clients implemented this (and what happened)

Hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment below with your thoughts?

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Quazi (00:00):

Quazi here. And in today’s video,

Speaker 2 (00:03):

I want to talk to you about when you should actually let go. And the crucial point that more than 1900% people actually miss, who are in this space, who learn about manifestation, who learned about goal achievement, who learn about letters go. And what we see is that because they don’t know when to let go, they keep prolonged thing, achievement of their goals for too long. And you know, they don’t ever get on the path of least resistance. There’s always a battle. There’s always too much resistance to getting to it. So in this video, I’m going to clarify up for you when it is that you should let go, how to let go the best way to do it and how to always be on that path of minimal resistance. So there’s an ease and an effortlessness in your life. So please, please make sure you stick around till the very end of this video, because this will be a game changer for you. So before I begin this video and to quickly announce, I made a free boot camp, you, if you go down to the comments section below, you’ll be able to access that as well as our exclusive email, less where I can’t, you know, I can share stuff that I can’t really share on the channel. So if you just go down and click on that button, you’ll be taken to a new page where you can put in your name and email and receive exclusive emails from

Speaker 3 (01:17):

Us. So with that

Speaker 2 (01:19):

Let’s get started. So today’s video will be about when to let go. How do you know that you should let go? And when to put in the work and when to go with the effort, a lot of this is intuitive understanding. It’s kind of like getting a feeling for it. For example, if you ask someone who’s going to play video games, right? Like how much video games should I play when it’s too much, it’s not a formulaic answer. Everyone has a different balance. So before jumping right into that, the meat of this video, I want to begin with a, with a story. Okay. If something that happened to me recently, so recently my wife and I decided to take a seven day vacation. And when I take these vacations, I completely switch off. I don’t like to think about work, because if you can learn how to get out of the zone, you’ll be able to get in the zone much easier.

Speaker 2 (02:06):

And whenever I finished my Workday, I don’t think about work at all. I completely switch off. And that was an important lesson that I learned. You know, when I wanted to learn how to get fully in the zone and work a hundred percent, I learned that if you can rest a hundred percent, you’ll be able to work a hundred percent. If you can turn off a hundred percent, you’ll be able to turn on a hundred percent. And so that’s when we decided I decided to implement these quarterly vacations. Now, when I usually do these vacations in the past do is I would just lately like shut everything down. We wouldn’t take calls. We wouldn’t accept prospective customers or anything. Right. Even though I have a sales person doing it now, I also have an assistant who takes care of things for me. I would just completely shut everything down because, you know, I was very controlling.

Speaker 2 (02:52):

I was like, oh, if I’m not there, I don’t want anything to mess up and anything to break. But this time I decided to expand my comfort a little. And I said, you know what? I leave everything running normally. And let’s see what happens. And so I just left everything running and I still switched off. And even though that was extremely uncomfortable for me, I knew that if I wanted to grow and I wanted to get to that next level where I delegate things and I feel comfortable delegating, which is the next step for me, I had to switch everything off. And, um, that’s what I did. I just completely let go of it. And in my mind, I completely got okay with the failure scenario. You know, I expected that maybe when I come back, things would break. Uh, clients will be upset because we turned off our Q and a calls and everything.

Speaker 2 (03:38):

And I was like, oh, maybe, you know, people might get upset. People might not like it, but you know, this is what it takes to get to the next level. Then I’ll do it. I shut everything off for seven days. Didn’t check my slack, didn’t check my emails or anything just completely switched off. And, uh, what happened when I came back, you know, I completely let go of it. What happened when I came back was astonishing. Um, I really didn’t expect it, but our team actually made a higher revenue than we usually do. You know, we usually do around 25 to 30 K every seven days in revenue. But this time, you know, when I came back, I checked our accounts. Within the past seven days, we closed 40 K in new revenue. Right. So, and that like completely blew me away. I was like, why does that happen? I mean, that doesn’t even happen when I’m, I’m working myself. So that kind of struck me as odd a little bit, but not too odd because I’ve seen patterns like this happen, you know, in the past, when I’ve completely let go of wanting to get something, it

Speaker 3 (04:41):

Happened. Right? So from

Speaker 2 (04:44):

This, I learned a core lesson, a core lesson of life was reinforced to me. And that lesson was when you have been focusing on something for a very long period of time, you naturally build attachment. Okay. You naturally build attachment to that goal that you want it to get to. But as soon as you let go of it, all of a sudden it comes to you.

Speaker 3 (05:07):

You, so w why

Speaker 2 (05:09):

This phenomenon really happens is because of something in us, subconscious mind. So our subconscious mind has this reticular activating system. It’s this thing that filters out for things that aren’t serving, the goal that we’ve programmed our mind with, and, you know, focuses on anything that will serve the goal. When you’ve focused on a goal for a very, very long period of time, you RAs becomes one pointed. It becomes very sharp, kind of like a knife, right? And it cuts out anything that it thinks won’t serve the goal, but it’s not intelligent enough to know what the goal, you know, what could contribute to the goal and what wouldn’t contribute to the goal. So, for example, how could it know that, you know, skipping this networking event or going to this networking event would to the goal, it might think that skipping a networking event would allow it more time to work on the business, but how could it know that if it went to this networking event, it might potentially meet

Speaker 3 (06:08):

New people who could serve the goal, right? So

Speaker 2 (06:11):

The RAs can’t go on that. It, it re it goes based on memory and what you program it with, right? So in this way, when you focus on a goal for a very long period of time, your bias is takeover. The RAs becomes very, very concentrated with anything that serves the goal. It thinks will serve the goal and brushes out quickly. Anything that it won’t, that won’t serve the goal. So in that way, when I focused on a goal for a very long of time, the RAs has become closed off. Right? Okay. And when you become closed off, you can’t receive, and this is where letting go comes in. Now you’ve sufficiently primed your reticular activating system with what you want. You’ve worked towards it now, it’s time to let go. So the moment, you know, you have to let go, you’ll feel it you’ll feel it in the way that the more you focus on it, the more you will contract when you feel like you’re contracting and you’re forcing something now is the time to let go. Okay. And when you do let go, now you become a little bit more open.

Speaker 3 (07:13):

Okay? So the

Speaker 2 (07:17):

Way to get the RAs more receptive is to let go, right? In order to receive a goal, to receive what you want to attract it in your life, you must become open. The way to become open is to let go. So do you see how this works right now? The RAs is very, very one pointed, and it’s very logical. It moves like that. When you let go, you scrambled up the RAs. Now you just completely scrambled it up. Now you’re open. You’re more intuitive. You’re more perceiving rather than judging and more structured. So in that manner, now you can receive the thing that you’ve been working on for such a long period of time. This is the biggest reason why people get very, very close to their goals, but just kind of cheat them. You know, like a revenue goal, you’ve become so close to that 20 K month you’ve become.

Speaker 2 (08:03):

So if it comes so close to that 50 K month, but just at that last moment, there’s this sabotage something happens, throws a spanner in the works, and it just doesn’t happen. Okay. There is this unconscious resistance that unconscious resistance is your reticular activating system. That’s become so programmed to that one goal, right? It just becomes closed off to any new opportunity that might contribute to it, right? So that is the time when you let go. And now let’s talk about how to let go. But before we get to that, I wanted to tie this into that lesson, right? So, because I’ve focused on that goal of letting my team run things without needing me for a very long time. Now it was time for me to put it to the test and actually let go and see what happens. And that’s exactly what I did. And when I did that,

Speaker 3 (08:50):

I was able to receive it. Right.

Speaker 2 (08:52):

But I wouldn’t have been able to do that if I never let go of it and never tested in the first place. So this is why doing things that are uncomfortable, scrambles up your RAs as well. That’s a way of letting go. So, you know, this is even key for you. If you’re like talking to someone that is your specific partner, and you’ve been attracted to them for a very long time, and you just keep like responding to their texts every two seconds. But if you just let go of them and just completely forgot about them, you’ll see that it’ll be much easier to attract them. Right? This happens to every single thing in life. Those who are needy don’t get much, but those who are non-needy and can let go of things,

Speaker 3 (09:28):

Do get, do, get what they want. Right?

Speaker 2 (09:31):

So the final thing, the final lesson that I learned from this is the question inevitably becomes, how do you let go? Okay. One of the biggest ways in which you can let go the most powerful ways, and this is the way that I’ve done before going on this vacation is getting okay with the failure scenario. If you remember, I was talking about how you’ve got to get, okay, with whatever happens, things could break. It’s a risk that you’re willing to take. When you take a risk to start up a new business, you risk some capital to learn a lesson, right? So then you can use that lesson to propel your future successes. Do you see what I mean? So in life, there are no, there’s no such thing as fail or loss. There is just success in the path that leads to success, but it’s up to you to perceive it that way, because if you don’t perceive it that way, then your life will unfold accordingly to the way you do perceive it.

Speaker 2 (10:22):

If you perceive it as bad, then more bad things will happen. If you perceive it as good, then more good things will happen. So just like that, when you get okay with the failure scenario, guess what happens? You now can become a little bit more open. The resistance drops. Your RAs becomes a little bit more open, and now you can take that action from a non-biased perspective. Okay. So that’s the, that’s the key to letting go to become okay. With whatever happens and just go and do the uncomfortable thing. Anyway, and to give an example of this recently, I had one of my clients come on the Q and a

Quazi (10:56):

Call Louis, who, um,

Speaker 2 (10:58):

She was, she has her own digital marketing business, and she’d been stuck at 4k month for a very long time. And just as she was completely done with it, she was just about to give up on it. Right. And she was like, you know what I’m done? And she just started up writing up a resume to get a job, even, you know, that’s how much he was done with it. As soon as she just completely let go of clients, come out of the woodworks. And she goes from four K a month to 14 K a month, and now she’s fully booked. She can’t even handle any more clients at all. And now her business, like she’s too busy, she has too much business. And now she has to find different ways to scale. And this happened because she completely let go of it, needing that thing we wanted for a very long time, for a very long time, she wants to crack their 10 K a month barrier.

Speaker 2 (11:47):

Right. And all of this happened because she completely let go of it. And just like with me, when I completely let go of whatever, you know, needing that certain revenue and needing my team to do well. And I just said, you know what, it, whatever happens happens. I’ll just take this vacation completely shut off and not check. Because even when I just keep on checking my mental energy, my RAs is still aligned with that. It’s still aligned and I need to get this particular result. Let’s see if the result has come. When I stopped checking everything and I just focus on something

Speaker 3 (12:19):

Else, then it does come. It usually

Speaker 2 (12:22):

Comes when I’m not expecting it when I’m least expecting it. Right. So guys would that, uh, conclude this video? Thank you so much for watching. I hope this was helpful. Let’s do a quick recap. We began with the story of how I went on this vacation and I let go of needing that particular outcome, which is the same amount of revenue level that I want it to get. Uh, usually, but instead we almost a double, right? Yeah. And I’d never expected that. And it’s because they completely let go. First of all, and I focused on something else. I didn’t keep checking. And number two, I got okay with the failure scenario, those are the two key lessons that I took away from it. And I hope this was helpful for you as well. Please leave me a comment, letting me know what you thought of this.

Speaker 2 (13:04):

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Speaker 2 (13:46):

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